It's in .. my bucket list

" The fault in Our stars"

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2582846/

Older and, perhaps, wiser?

终于，知道今年要注意的是什么。 要管好自己。
不论自己有多难过多黑暗都不能用言语或其他方式去伤害他人。
 

到不了的地方

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5kfz56cwttI

无期

我最害怕的是我会一直这样恐惧下去。

知世故而不世故

难得 =)

Like or dislike; right or wrong

If it is something that I don't like because of my own perception or preference, I let it go.
If it is a wrong thing to do, I won't compromise.

lest We FOrgEt

We would not have the life we are having now without the merits and goodness of many others. Thank you, you, you and you...

Please

donate blood as frequent as posisble, if you can.

Life is short ...

, stress makes it even shorter ...

the FINISHERS

Like it or not ...

.... things happen so I've chosen to accept whatever happen happily while I can.

What's your excuse?

Three months back, I managed to convince my little bro in trying to quit smoking. He smoked since his early teen, maybe 12 years back?  I had promised to reward him on the 100th day after he quit smoking but I totally forgotten about it. haha. Then, last week I received a call from my 29 years old bro demanding the 100th day gift. 

These are what I got him, custom made Tees. Hope he likes them and hope I have the honour to print the 1000th, 10000th tees for him =) 

Well done, bro!!

Another good one...

祝你幸福

对，就是你啦。 =)

别恼

You, yourself is causing the pain.
Also, your past makes you, you.

新年快乐。

愿平安。

Difficult time

is time to practise what you have learnt to the maximum.

Being in a relationship

...  or having a child marks the beginning of the journey of unconditional love. metta.

关关难过，关关过。

要沉得住气。

SOmetiMeS

and most of the time, we forget how good we are or how good we can be.

Sometimes and most of the time, we tend to remember bitter experience better than cherish sweet moments in life.

This is how most mind work.

New target- It's going to be good...

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2058107/

Wisdom tooth extraction

Heard many bad experiences of colleagues and friends about it.
I applied for a week leave but my kind supervisor has given me two weeks off. He thinks I need more than one week to heal  >,<

Fear then built up when the date got closer.
And I started to find excuses in trying to postpone the surgery.
Can I drive after that? Who is going to drive me to the drug store to get the pain killer? Experiments are still running.. I really need to get my thesis done. The tooth has not given me any trouble so far why do I need to find trouble?? I am staying alone now, no one is going to cook for me after that. By then, I started to understand why some elderly refuse to do the annual medical check-up.  It's because of fear, fear of unknown. Really torturing me.

Fear disappeared when I decided to trust the dentist. He is professional. When he advised to get it done, it needed to be done.

Fear vanished when I realized physical pain is more bearable than mental pain (fear of unknown).

Got to remember this experience.

Googling

For those who know to google, googling may become the only word you know. anonymous. 

不应该炫耀的...

这次学会了，牙膏也要藏冰箱，不然膏变水了，怎么用？

sO TrUe

‘It doesn’t take much to be in love. But it takes a lot to be in a relationship.’ – Anonymous

10度的夏天

夏天已经过了一半...

          英雄还无用武之地呢...

             无奈ing hahaha 

2014 Maxim

No time for negative thought at all.

2013 领悟

慢下来，走得更快。

New Year Resolution

Friends have been asking me, "why must we make new year resolution? I won't do that just because everyone is doing it." A typical cool, generation Y's response towards social norms.
I pondered upon this question for awhile.
Then, I have my answers.
Because we are careless/ unmindful and we forget things.
Because we get carried away so easily by day to day mundane life until we miss the big picture, the purpose of life and what really make us happy.
New Year would be a good life's checkpoint for us to reflect, to learn, to thank and to change.

Happy New Year.

Little nephew

LK, continue to have fun in life hahaha...

Year end...

... reflection time.

里外

里里外外，都得定期打扫。

Just want to

單純專注地做自己，不要怕與眾不同. 

Perception

is not a good friend either.

Unfriending

... expectations.

陳綺貞 <流浪者之歌>

 http://t.cn/8kq79NY 

LiFE

生命只是一个过程。
Life is nothing but merely a process.

人生 ...

人生受委屈的时候能坦然一笑，大度。
吃亏的时候能开心一笑，豁达。
危难的时候能泰然一笑，大气。
被轻蔑的时候能平静一笑，自信。洒脱。
世上沒有絕对完美這回事,不过沒关糸, 生命必須有裂縫, 陽光才能照得進來.
楊子汶

没事了。

最不習慣都已經習慣. 

逼.逼..逼...

"有時候不逼自己一下，你的世界永遠是黑色的"  
unknown

Cairns -2013

退一步， 真的会是海闊天空. 

喜欢

喜欢上对的人能让人变得优秀...

简单 ，不复杂化事物

决定尽全力发正能量。
看好的一面，学好的一面。
不然就白活了。

真诚

要学会沉默， 很多东西要用心去体会。
要习惯简单，无图无色单调的片字，也可以很有味道。

Happy International Teachers' Day

"It is not the speed of which we travel but the sureness and evenness of our footing that matter. It’s a very slippery slope.

Although we are caring but we are careless, sometimes we get carried away.

It’s not whether the thing is good or bad that causes suffering alone. But, the attachment is the condition for the arising of suffering.

How to maintain a wholesome mind? A bad person also can do good.  You are good but may not be wise. What makes you a good person?  What is the standard?" 

I remember what you had shared ... 

Facebook

Sometimes we facebook to avoid facing life.

Ok

It's OK to be not OK.

"好朋友"

曾经何时"好朋友" 指的不再是那些与你有难同当者而是那些"信任"你,且能与你一起道他人是非的人了??

Must not miss ...

San Lorenzo Market, Florence.

He just rode in at the exact moment I snapped >,< ... 

A church quietly embedding within the busy market...

Lots of stuffs that I've never seen or heard before ... 

'Stinky" cheese ... 

I swear, there were dust and" rumput-rumpai" on the cheese ...

busy ...

While busy building your career, property and social cycle, don't neglect building your character and personality too.

更胜一筹

Bristish museum比the Lourve更胜一筹的是，
每天都有类似这个的Free tours。
难得的是，讲解人都是热爱历史的研究员。

Don't forget to pay a visit to the museum bookstore too.
I've found some treasure there. haha.  

Visitors were evacuated from the museum because of the fire alarm.
Luckily, no one was injured and there was no damage.
But, what an experience to me. haha. 

Louvre

Dan Brown 笔下的 Lourve, Paris。

买票时记得也拿个 Audio Guide，得另负钱,可是值得, 你不会后悔。
可持同票在阁天入场,我是后来才知道的。

Reward

她让我知道了，我其实怕高怕死，也满勇敢地，因为我撑到最后，
在最高处欣赏了Paris的另一风貌。 这是勇敢的reward.
Eiffel Tower. 

A Late Quartet (2012)

从伦敦回墨尔本机上意外的收获。 

There was a scene that touched me a lot in the movie. Try to find it.
A boy quoting Ogden Nash's  "Old men" out loud on a subway train.

"People expect old men to die,
They do not really mourn old men.
Old men are different.
People look at them with eyes that wonder when ...
People watch with unshocked eyes;
But the old men know when an old man dies."

ai shang...

蕭敬騰  =) 

Depression

is like we fall down knowing that there is a hole.
You can see there is a hole but still you choose to fall down because lack of cultivation.

When you're down, what do you usually do?
Watch a movie, spending, eating or going for a holiday?
In fact, it is not about doing but stopping.

Some time ago ...

.... this was how I lived my life.
Thanks for reminding me on this, HS =) 

勇气

长大了，成熟后，做莫些决定好像更难了。
决定要顾及自己，也要考虑到他人。
在想还是安逸太久了，害怕改变， 然后拼命找借口。

然后的然后， 我才发现我是因为没勇气承担后果。
妥协再妥协的我,没发现虽然还在路上可是我离目标越来越远了.

现在，需要找回我的勇气。

Gimhana Sunday

“Don’t go to the temple just to ‘do’ something. Instead, go to ‘learn’ something.” 

“People like to ‘do’ things at the temple, such as performing rituals, see friends, talk, work... A whole life-time of ‘doing’ may not bring about any real transformation in the character of the doer. We only ‘grow’ through learning. So the next time you’re going to the temple, think this way, ‘I am going there to ‘learn’ something today.’ ” – (Excerpts from teachings on Gimhana Sunday.)

浮誇

作詞：樓南蔚
作曲：CY　Kong
演唱：林志炫

夜晚星空　你只看見最亮的那顆
人海中你崇拜　話題最多最紅的那個
誰不覬覦著要站在舞臺中央 光環只為我閃爍

散場後　落幕後　誰關心你想甚麼 誰在乎你做甚麼
誇張不是罪過　能滿足空洞乏味的生活
那窺探的眼那議論的口　消遣了每一次茶餘飯後

難道非要浮誇嗎　無謂是非與真假
拼排場包裝比身價　誰說真心話　誰說真心話
只要畫面夠驚訝　只要內容夠爆炸
一張嘴開出了天花　嬉笑怒罵
只能在夜裡鏡子前　偷偷講實話

你喜歡我　不喜歡我　是你的自由
我只是希望在某些時候　抓到你耳朵
為音樂夢想唱出第一個音符　從此就沒放棄過
主觀的　客觀的　旁觀的攔阻太多
好壞要自己承受
所以我要歌頌　讓情緒釋放在歌聲之中
選擇雖然多　好歌有幾首　能夠去感動人給些什麼

難道非要浮誇嗎　無謂是非與真假
拼排場包裝比身價　誰是大贏家　誰是大贏家
只要畫面夠驚訝　只要內容夠爆炸
一張嘴開出了天花　嬉笑怒罵
只能在夜裡鏡子前　偷偷講實話

幸運兒不是我　因為我選擇的路很難走
如果夠出色卻不能出頭　至少也做到沒第二個我

難道非要浮誇嗎　內心也曾很掙扎
一個人努力的時候　有誰看見嗎　有誰知道嗎
唱到思緒都融化　唱到聲音也沙啞
說是我著了魔也好　瘋了也罷
若不能揮灑　算甚麼歌唱的玩家

看著我正在為你發光
合不合胃口　都請欣然接受吧
下一刻要為你擦出火花
啊～

New mantra

Unknown is so prominent in life that's what make life wonderful as it's full of possibilities.

Upekkha

There is a problem only when there is a solution for it. If there is no solution for that problem then we have to learn to be equanimous. Sometimes, we have no choice but to see people suffer...

Wholeheartedly

If you're going to sweep, give it everything you've got.

Ajahn Chah

Ubah

All things I have been exposed to these few days is making me feel that there is an urge for UBAH. Then, I realize. the most immediate Ubah I can achieve is within myself.

So now it's the time for some reflections:
How can I ubah to become a better Malaysian? a better me?

见到了绿洲

从来没对政治这么关心过。
很无知的，从来不知道好的坏的政府可以影响这么多人的生活。
因为我是幸运的一个，得到了澳州政府奖学金，悠闲快乐的学习着。

以前总认为，受到不公平的待遇是理所当然的，因为我寄人篱下。
GE13 让我见到了绿洲。
重新认识了‘马来西亚’代表了什么。
应该扩越肤色，一起为更美好的一天努力。

谢谢站出来的人，让我成长也让我见到了绿洲。

我心从这里出发，有这个认知，大家都是马来西亚人。
马来西亚人，澳州人，英国人。。 都是人。
We are all one mankind.
这就是宗教里说的大爱吧。

Desmond said....

"Jangan sebab politik, Ahmad, Muthu dan Ah Seng tidak boleh melepak mamak bersama!"

This I have to bear in mind =)

明亮的话

要成熟是要有很多过程，而这个过程的第一步是改变现状。
加油了。

The legend of 1900

谢谢你令我遇见了他。 

"Sometimes that is just the way you have to do it, you go right back to the beginning."  -1900

That's why I have to remember how and why I began. 

"It was not what I saw that stopped me; it was what I did not see." -1900

Don't forget to see also what you do not see. 

"Land is a ship which is too big for me' -1900

I'll just be here. 

Lost focus

I was too busy counting the stars until I lost tracked of the moon.

No one ...

can stop a vibrant mind to shine.

Black and white

missing grey in my life.

“这一次我来马来西亚很感动。我们大部分人都相信，这个世界上有是非对错、有真理，公正必须得到伸张。但是大部分时候，这个世界的现实黑白不是那么分明，是非如此混淆，通常是灰色的。” 梁文道 

忙而不亂

“ Be busy without being disorganised, and weary without being dispirited. Be busy but happy, and tired but joyful. It is fine to be busy, just don’t let it get on your nerves.”

“ 忙而不亂，累而不疲。忙得快樂，累得歡喜。「忙」沒關係，不「煩」就好。” 

圣严

Ajahn Buddhadasa (1906 - 1993)

“ The lively physical activity and fresh complexions of young people is one kind of youth, while the youthfulness of the mind, heart, and spirit refers to a spiritual brightness, vigour, and serenity that comes with having more Dhamma. As the heat of our inner flames is subsiding, coolness can enter and envelop us. We feel increasingly refreshed, vibrant, and cheerful.”

Yes!!! I can be FOREVER yoUNg :D  

Looking for my dutch uncle...

... a person who gives me honest feedback;
who cares enough to tell me the tough-love things that i needed to know.

keep looking...
keep waiting... ...

不要愤怒

记住， 不要愤怒。
愤怒会降低你的智慧。
也不要恨自个儿的敌人，
因为仇恨会使你失去判断力。
与其恨自个儿的敌人，不如拿他为我所用。

曹操- 字孟德

难得糊涂

“我虽然心善，但我却不糊涂。
只是有时候不糊涂者，却不得不装糊涂啊。
这有演戏的，也要有看戏的啊."

子敬。

Verbal diarrhea

Are those people simply taking too much or I am losing my patience for listening??

Be a good OnE

Venerable Kirinde Sri Dhammananda (1918 - 2006)

" 'Doing good' is easy; but 'being good' is more difficult. Anyone can 'do good'; even corrupted individuals can occasionally do good deeds. But to 'be good' requires discipline, mindfulness, and constant effort.

The Buddha taught not just doing good, but being good."

开， 开， 开

心胸要阔。
视野要广。
这样才能容他，容你，容我， 容天下。

哈哈。
我不气，我也不记。
这就对了。

2013。

对的事，该做的事， 再多打击也不放弃。
好的信念， 再多考验也得坚持到底。

立春快乐。 信心满满，朝2013前进。

反观

想看淡人世间的人与物， 谈何容易？
说不容易，也不是做不到的。
循循渐进，总会有进展。
不试， 怎能说难与不行呢？
加油了。

最近，有幸成为事非的主角。
深深的体会到人言可畏这句话。
一句关心的问候，在不适时时出现，会弄巧反拙。
很多时候，问不是出于关心而是好奇心。
小心了。

要学会察颜观色，尽量不给身边人无谓的负担。
不确定时要学会沉默是最佳的支持。
记住了。

Perception

is also another impermanent thing so do not fear it.  =)

Hatred

Once, I wondered, how can one develop hatred towards another? Hatred, it's so extreme, strong and intense consuming lots of your energy.

Now, I know. It develops gradually, especially in a gentle person. From feeling annoy to dislike then strong rejection and finally hate.

Love

Love brings out the best of you and, sadly, also the worst of you.

More accurately,
Love without attachment brings out the best of you;
Love with attachment brings out the ugliest of you.

To Travelers ...

http://www.theage.com.au/travel/traveller-tips/mind-the-gap-20121207-2azsr.html

Getting a 28 degrees MasterCard would definitively smoothen your journey.  =)   

Wu Ti

谁愿意解释为了什么，一笑已经风云过 - Ee Yean

Conflicts happen the most in a domestic life, in a family, between husband and wife, parents and children, brothers and sisters and friends who live together.  - Ajahn Kalyano

Use money to add value in your life but don't allow it to become a snake to bite you in the end. - Nosh

Find a teacher, give in to him; don't let your stubbornness blocks you from learning. - Ajahn Mun

Nice Quotes AGAIN

At Mt. Dandenong

Past

Thing to remember today: Past bitter experience makes me who I am today.

Payoga

With effort, things change.

Insight...

Men stick to a woman because of her beauty but not her intelligence :-p

One is enough...

Everyone hears what you say; friends listen to what you say; best friend listen to what you don't say.

TrUe FRienD

Everyone needs a true friend;
one that you can show the real ugly self.

Be responsible for your action

"People ask me about what sacrifices I've made. I always answer: I've made no sacrifices, I've made choices." Au San Suu Kyi

...

Only those who love and lost know what bitter cost.

Optimist

To an optimist, reality always depend on how you see the world.

Happiness First...

If you accept a job, a relationship, or a lifestyle that you merely tolerate — but don’t appreciate — you’re putting other concerns ahead of your own happiness.

Social conditioning may have convinced you that sacrificing your happiness to maintain a certain bank balance, to send timely payments to corporations to which you’re indebted, or to pay for someone else’s needs and expenses is the proper way to live. Perhaps your parents played a role in this conditioning as well, teaching you the importance of being responsible and holding down stable employment.

If you do these things well, then according to this conditioning, you are successful. You’re doing what’s expected of you, and no one could fault you for that. But sooner or later you’ll come to realize that successfully paying the bills and satisfying other people’s needs, while depriving yourself of a happy life you’re truly passionate about, is no success at all. In fact, it is complete and utter failure.

If you’ve found yourself in this situation, then you’ve terribly misunderstood the game of life.

While you may have been convinced that these duties are important, the truth is that they’re of no particular importance to people with high self-esteem and a positive sense of self-worth. Such people do not care how much money you make, what kind of provider you are, or how long you’ve been married to the same person. They’re much more curious about something else: how you feel about yourself and the path you’re walking.

I have many friends who earn very little money, can’t or won’t hold down stable jobs, and have constantly churning relationship lives. And yet, if they are happy with themselves, I typically find them fascinating and valuable people to have in my life.

I also have friends who’ve been blessed by tremendous financial success, with brilliant, decades-spanning careers and deeply loving, committed relationships. If they too are happy with themselves, I find them just as fascinating and rewarding to connect with.

When, however, I connect with people who are responsibly doing their duty, but who haven’t yet cultivated a life of happiness, I can’t help but notice the sallow desperation in their eyes, the numbness with which they speak, and the damned-if-I-do-damned-if-I-don’t game of self-deception they play each day. They feel trapped and lost to the point where they label feelings like depression and frustration with words like “fine” and “okay.”

If you find yourself in such a situation, there is a way out, and it begins with finally acknowledging the truth to yourself and diving into the dark places where you think it may lead. Accept your situation as it is, and most importantly, accept how you feel about it. The reality is that the darkness you fear is really nothing to fear at all. Yes, you may face some challenges, but that is how you’ll grow.

Do you love and appreciate your work? Do you love and appreciate your relationships? Do you love and appreciate your lifestyle? What is the truth?

You cannot get unstuck so long as you remain in perpetual denial. No external rescue will appear. But there is indeed a path to freedom, and it lies on the other side of denial and self-deception — on the side of truth and acceptance.

What does happiness look like? Happiness is waking up feeling optimistic and expectant about the day you get to live. Happiness makes it hard to stay in bed once you awaken. A rich day full of new experiences and creative expression awaits you. It is an exciting thing to behold. Happiness is the stillness that exists within energy and movement.

When you are happy, you can still pay your bills on time, but you’ll make better choices about what bills are worth incurring. Some of your current bills and expenses might never have been created, had you been living a happy and inspired life to begin with. When you are happy, you can still support others if you wish, but this will be done because you truly want to do it, not because you feel obligated to do so. When you are happy, you can still enjoy a stable career, but you’ll produce significantly more value in less time because happiness inspires creativity and action, and creative action is a wellspring of opportunity — a wellspring which can, if so desired, produce abundant income for you.

Rest assured, your world will not explode simply because you’ve decided to make your own happiness a real priority. More likely, the response from the universe will be akin to a sighing, What took you so long?

When I’ve made decisions that were aligned with my own happiness first, I’ve heard the occasional (sometimes frequent) outcries of those objecting to my choices, but these objections invariably came from those who weren’t happy with their own choices. My decision was a painful reminder of that, and hence I can understand, empathize with, and forgive the momentary insanity on their part — the insanity which presumes that their wallowing in unhappiness could possibly persuade me to join them under any circumstances.

But far worse than the vocal objections of others are the simulated objections that exist only within your mind — the simulated fear of disapproval.

In all honesty which is more important to you: the approval of others, or your own happiness?

If you aren’t happy, you don’t approve of yourself, and hence no one of consequence can approve of you anyway. They will recognize plain as day that your priorities have produced a dismal and wretched failure of a life. If you place approval above your own happiness, you ultimately end up with neither. You’ll be unhappy, and you cannot expect anyone to truly approve of you for that. Whatever approval you do receive will be as fake as the contentment you pretend to harbor.

The approval of others is inconsequential, but if you successfully create a happy life for yourself, you will have your own self-approval, and that is worth something. This self-approval will in turn appear to unlock the approval mechanisms of the universe itself, and it will flood your reality with plenty of validating evidence. When your happiness becomes a true priority, you’ll soon notice a conspiracy of ridiculous abundance, including happy relationships with other happy and attractive people, strong motivation to express yourself creatively, and a lifestyle that yanks you out of bed with a “Wow!”

http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2012/08/happiness-first-then-everything-else/

Just for YoU ...

I am not telling you it is going to be easy;
I am telling it is going to be worth it.

No compromise

There is no compromise on the quality of work I deliver regardless of how busy I am.  Something worth doing is worth doing well.

Focus and get things done.

坏习惯

年龄越大， 累积的坏习惯也会相映的多。

现在想起来，有点可怕。 

好像开始讨厌老的我。

要怎样才不会倚老卖老？ 

一号

充满气，充满力，向新希望前进。